It's warm outside. Finally.
Yesterday was a hot summer's day, the sunshine was strong and the sky way clear. As is just happens, today will be the same - a perfect days for.. paining the walls. :)
I am a person who believes marriage looks like some perfect fairy-tale ending, and is a life partnership filled with someone who supports your every dream, goal and aspiration. However, there are people who see the entire issue quite differently. They see marriage as a successful business partnership. A merger.
Let's take a look at what happens when
those two views collide:
Tell me that there is NOTHING wrong with being a hopeless romantic
and that there is Someone Out There for all of us.
We are allowed to be as romantic as we want to. On the other hand, I don't frown upon those who chose their life partner as they've chosen a business partner. As a matter of fact, I have found some advises on how to "manage the deal".
1. Look for a failure.
To build a successful marriage, partner with someone who has failed. I know your mother probably told you to find the most successful person possible to marry. She may have even used that dreaded line, “You can love a rich man just as easy as a poor man.” Your mother was wrong. Success is easy. When things are going well, having a partner to share things with is icing on the proverbial wedding cake. It’s when life turns hard that we need the most support. How a person handles failure, and rebounds from that failure, tells you more about their character and what your life together will look like than success ever will.
2. Beware of those who “lawyer up.”
How did the person of your dreams settle their last business dispute? Did they lawyer up and fight to the end no matter the economic and personal cost? If they did, run as fast as you can from the wedding altar! How a person solved and dissolved partnership issues in the past is exactly how they’ll solve and dissolve life-love issues with you.
3. Go for the service provider, not the sales person.
Romance is the ultimate sales pitch. You have a need (you want to be in love and have a partner) and you’re in the market to make a major acquisition. Unfortunately, you’ll probably go for the person with the best, most compelling sales pitch. And you’ll probably make a mistake.
Sales people are focused on winning customers. Customer service providers, on the other hand, are focused on satisfying your needs and helping you have the best experience. Who would you like to spend your life with? Someone who was fast on the uptake, or someone who cares and works at helping you meet your needs and creating the best possible outcome?
There's one thing I fully agree on :
Businesses that are built to last have shared priorities and values. Marriages that stand the test of time are built on the same foundation.
Have a wonderful Sunday!