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Friday, 21 November 2014

Dressing up matters. And: matters on dressing up. :)

Hello there.

There's a saying in the world, it's the same in all the regions: "There's more than meets the eye". Yes, there is. But in order to become "more", you have to "please the eye". Meaning: no matter how great of a fella he is, or how amazing girl she might be - we judge people we meet on the basis their appearance. 
Appropriate clothes gives us self-confidence and help us to make good impressions on other people.

The trio looks amazing!

It's another lesson in etiquette, you ask?
Indeed, it is.
We are reading :

"Тhe ladies' book of etiquette, and manual of politeness
by Florence Hartley


"A lady is never so well dressed as when you cannot remember what she wears."
No truer remark than the above was ever made. Such an effect can only be produced where every part of the dress harmonizes entirely with the other parts, where each color or shade suits the wearer's style completely, and where there is perfect neatness in each detail. One glaring color, or conspicuous article, would entirely mar the beauty of such a dress. It is, unfortunately, too much the custom to wear any article, or shape in make, that is fashionable, without any regard to the style of the person purchasing goods. If it is the fashion it must be worn, though it may greatly exaggerate a slight personal defect, or conceal or mar what would otherwise be a beauty. It requires the exercise of some judgment to decide how far an individual may follow the dictates of fashion, in order to avoid the appearance of eccentricity, and yet wear what is peculiarly becoming to her own face or figure. Another fault of our fair countrywomen is their extravagance in dress. No better advice can be given to a young person than to dress always according to her circumstances. She will be more respected with a simple wardrobe, if it is known either that she is dependent upon her own exertions for support, or is saving a husband or father from unnecessary outlay, than if she wore the most costly fabrics, and by so doing incurred debt or burdened her relatives with heavy, unwarrantable expense. If neatness, consistency, and good taste, preside over the wardrobe of a lady, expensive fabrics will not be needed; for with the simplest materials, harmony of color, accurate fitting to the figure, and perfect neatness, she will always appear well dressed.


Neatness — This is the first of all rules to be observed with regard to dress. Perfect cleanliness and careful adjustment of each article in the dress are indispensable in a finished toilet. Let the hair be always smooth and becomingly arranged, each article exquisitely clean, neat collar and sleeves, and tidy shoes and stockings, and the simplest dress will appear well, while a torn or soiled collar, rough hair, or untidy feet will entirely ruin the effect of the most costly and elaborate dress. The many articles required in a lady's wardrobe make a neat arrangement of her drawers and closets necessary, and also require care in selecting and keeping goods in proper order. A fine collar or lace, if tumbled or soiled, will lose its beauty when contrasted with the same article in the coarsest material perfectly pure and smooth. Each article of dress, when taken off, should be placed carefully and smoothly in its proper place. Nice dresses should be hung up by a loop on the inside of the waistband, with the skirts turned inside out, and the body turned inside of the skirt. Cloaks should hang in smooth folds from a loop on the inside of the neck. Shawls should be always folded in the creases in which they were purchased. All fine articles, lace, embroidery, and handkerchiefs, should be placed by themselves in a drawer, always laid out smoothly, and kept from dust. Furs should be kept in a box, alone, and in summer carefully packed, with a quantity of lump camphor to protect from moths. The bonnet should always rest upon a stand in the band-box, as the shape and trimming will both be injured by letting it lie either on the face, sides, or crown.


I don't want to make this overwhelming (as I am aware I have been on and on about this subject, but I do this kinds of post majorly for myself - as a reminder of what I'm striving to).
We'll continue soon.


  1. Replies
    1. Thank you, darling.
      I always fear I'm posting too much about etiquette, but then I remember that this is MY place, and the main reason I do this is to make my own little scrap book of vintage emporium. :)


  2. Could you imagine if such wise and solid advice was preached to today's fashion crowd? If they put their smart phones down long enough to hear it, I doubt they'd do more than snicker or recoil in fear - not be remembered because of how they looked? Surely, they'd think, the writer must have been mad! On the contrary, I fully understand what she was saying. The aim is not to dress in such a way that folks see your clothes before they do your face, which is certainly a problem that goes back far longer than the invention of skinny jeans and crop tops being worn together. One's clothing should be a reflection of who they are, indeed, but it doesn't have to be OTT to be beautiful or to convey a sense of style in the slightest. Indeed, is it not the person who can make a classic black suit and tasteful accessories look marvelous that deserves one's admiration more than the youth who blends four different patterns together to create an outfit that darn near hurts the eyes and leaves one remarking on it, not on the person beneath it?

    Great post and topic, my sweet friend - as you can tell, it's one I have zero qualms delving into myself. :)

    ♥ Jessica

    1. Dear, dear friend,
      Your words are echoing my ideas so well. I had my doubts about posting this; I always have doubts when it comes to posting something that might be seen as me telling others what to do. But then I constantly remind myself: this is a place I've built for myself, and these words are here to (firstly) remind me of what my goal is.
      Surely, some might think the author is mad.
      However, to tell the truth: I doubt those folks frequent blogs such as this one. :)

      Thank you for your comment, darling.