There, in fact, is another way to deal with this "issue":
enter the "why bother?" state of mind. :)
It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them.
Start by knowing you are entitled to think what you want. What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. What someone thinks of us may be (is very likely to be) totally wide of the mark. If someone forms an opinion of us based on superficiality, then it is up to them, to reform those opinions based on a more objective and rational view. Leave it to them to worry about - since there's a whole life to be lived.
You can’t please all of the people all of the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so.
Only thing that matters is to make sure that one of the people we please is OURSELVES.
Just for the sake of it
(and all of us who lose/gain weight)
I'm posting there parallel menu plans:
People can only love us if we believe we’re lovable.
You may not fully believe it if you:
- Constantly compensate for who you are with apologies, hedging words, or clarifications for your actions, like you always owe other people explanations.
- Beat yourself up when you make even the slightest mistake.
- Think about your flaws and feel overwhelming disgust or anger.
- Cling to people who see the best in you and find it hard to maintain those positive feelings when they walk away.
- Tell yourself that you’re being selfish whenever you consider meeting your own needs.
- Repeatedly do self-destructive things, or make choices that show you don’t respect or value yourself.
- Don’t consider your needs a priority.
- Always find a reason to talk yourself out of your dreams as if perhaps you don’t deserve to have them.
I have done every last one of these things at some point. I suspect we all have. Sometimes it’s challenging to love ourselves, particularly in a world where not being a "norm" is perceived as not being worthy of appreciation, love and respect.
Why bother about it?!
How much body fat we have, our age, our bra size, our waist circumference, or any other number does not define us. That is the opposite of what you read in health and fitness magazines, diet books, and see on infomercials - but, just because it's opposite does not mean it not the truth!
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to lose fat or change the appearance of your body. After all, it’s your body so you can do whatever you please with it. However, we need to stop valuing ourselves based on the number glaring up at us when we step on the scale.
I'm giving people a chance to chose,
that's fair, right? :)
If we ARE to "measure" ourselves, let's use some proper tools to assess our-self worth, like: the value we add to this world, what we have created, how we treat others, etc
Now, that's worth more than a "daily menu", right?
What say you?