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Thursday, 8 August 2013

The Who-What-When-Where of the Hat - etiquette

Hello ladies (and gents!)

Hats aren't the essential article of clothing they once were but are still worn by both sexes for fashion and for function. Knowing when to remove a hat is as important as wearing the right hat for the occasion.

Hello there! Recognize me?!
Shirt from P.S. Fashion
Skirt is something my mom passed on to me (thank you!)
Lady bug ring is from  a trip to Graz
Green bangle from a thrift shop
Green earrings - also thrift shop
The HAT from La Sorella

While ago, I found an article on followed by a lovely quote: 
From national anthems to indoor occasions, there really is a right — and completely wrong — way to wear one, so be sure to keep this list of manners handy when donning, doffing, or tipping your hat. Trust us, with the proper hatiquette, you’ll be the smartest, snazziest, and most polite person at the party. Not to mention, you’ll avoid all hat hang-ups and embarrassments, too.
Here's the amazing What-When-Where-Who:

This is the most detailed Do's and Don't's explanation put in a form of a picture-guide, easy to understand and easy to follow.

The different rules for women developed in the heady days when everyone wore hats. The hats worn by women were an integral part of their outfits and were never removed. Would you ever take off your dress in public? Women would be naked without their hats. In any case removal of one’s best hat would be impracticable in most circumstances as the hat may have been fastened to the hair severely by a series of hat pins. This was certainly the case in Victorian and Edwardian times. 

Edwardian lady looking dashing. 

Women are typically permitted to wear hats that are part of the outfit indoors. But Emily Post advised that a hat should NOT be worn with an evening dress (to me this seems more of a style point than a matter of etiquette). The style mavens of the 1950's and 1960's advise that daytime hats with large brims not be worn inside in the evening. Smaller brim hats should be worn if any hat is worn. Some would say that any dress hat can be worn indoors without exception. After dinner is the appropriate time to remove your hat if so inclined. A woman would not normally wear her hat in her own home even in the old days. 

Hats were made to be suitable to any and all your daily outfits - so, 
there was NO REASON to take it off.

Wearing hats at an upscale restaurant is acceptable especially for fancy luncheons and High Teas. Indeed many ladies get together for High Teas where hat wearing is mandatory and is a fun event. Some advise that the hat should be part of your street clothes – a nice dress for example. 

 Ladies having their tea - look at those  lovely hats!

Women should remove their personal hats at work. Of course special headgear for uniforms and protection or for some theatrical performance perhaps might be worn.

Let me end this (I don't dare call it a lesson) with a lovely quote by Martha Sliter
"A hat is a flag, a shield, a bit of armor, and the badge of femininity. A hat is the difference between wearing clothes and wearing a costume; it's the difference between being dressed and being dressed up; it's the difference between looking adequate and looking your best. A hat is to be stylish in, to glow under, to flirt beneath, to make all others seem jealous over, and to make all men feel masculine about. A piece of magic is a hat!"

Me again.
Spotting what I'm trying to show here? My hat, naturally. 

So, put your hat on and enjoy your day..

♥ Pinky Honey



  1. Hello gorgeous gal! My goodness, does that style of hat look magnificent on you. Floppy brimmed ones tend to be tricky for me to pull off (the same goes for cloches and fedoras), but they work to no end on you. What a pretty, summery outfit and great post. I beamed the biggest smile when I saw that you included the hat etiquette infographic, because I'm quoted on it! :)

    Thank you very much for your insightful comment on my post yesterday. I'm so sorry that you've had to put up with a barrage of negative comments over the years. I truly admire your rosy outlook and share your belief that one kind word or touching complement is all it takes to erase the bad. You're a glass half full kind of gal after my own heart!

    ♥ Jessica

    1. You are indeed quoted on it.. and you've contributed to something magnificently important. :D
      Knowing that one is not alone against the questions, comments and "looks" is a great thing - and "vintage-loving" community (you are included - since your blog is an inspiration!) is more than eager to accept, help and just make my day better.
      My glass is half full, I've realized that one the first time I've decided not to care, to just put my hat one - and go out.

      Thank you for you kind-hearted comment.
      It means a lot.


  2. Oh wow, love love love that quote at the end! I hadn't read that one before! It put the biggest grin on my face :D

    xo Sara

    1. Oh, thank you, dear Sara!
      The quote was so inspiring, and so true.
      I'm glad you've liked it.